There is a special place in our heart carved out just for memories.  Only God and Time can heal your broken hearts, God can make all things new.  He can help each and everyone of you who have suffered greatly in your survival and in the grief that many now have over the loss of loved ones.

From one human being to another ... don't blame anyone for anything.  Remember that God makes no mistakes.  We are all human and come short of the glory of God.  There was only one man who walked this earth that was perfect.
Placing blame will not do anything but harbour ill feelings - you can not move on with your life or be what God would have you to be.  Hold steadfast to the memories of your loved ones, hug your family and friends more, put yourself in God's hands and cherish each and every moment of your life.

"Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to
help in time of need."
Hebrews 4:16

"Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you.
Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."
John 14:27